Only friends? Is it possible?

Many people thing that having a male friend is a big no-no being that I'm a married woman. But I think that having male friends can actually help me keep my sanity as long as I maintain certain boundaries. There are times when my head as a woman starts to go crazy and think all kinds of things, (ie: a jealous rage) and thanks to my guy friend I'm able to rethink the situation and realize that I'm not seeing another point-of-view. There are times when us, women, see things differently than what they really are. So my guy friends help me out whenever I have certain doubts or insecurities regarding my relationship and other aspects of my life. My friends respect me and my husband. But more importantly I respect my husband and myself.

There are certain things that I don't find appropriate. For instance, drinking with my male buddy ALONE; being ALONE for a long time; going out at night ALONE. It's not that I don't trust him or me, it's simply that being alone with a person from the opposite sex and putting yourself in certain positions can "tempt" you into doing something more. You may get an "urge" and it can go further than intended.

So just keep it simple........and everything will be fine!

Virtual Affair,.....

I keep bringing this up about this "Virtual" life issue because it just seems so interesting to me. I mean how do you weigh or judge people's actions in this game? Should you make them pay for it in "Real" life? After browsing through the news,....(as I always do) I come across a woman who is divorcing her husband because he walked in on him having "virtual sex" with another virtual player. I mean "virtual infidelity"......so yea technically the person really didn't do it, but their "persona" did. I mean it can go either ways: either they play and do things they wouldn't normally do in real life (like getting a BJ by a virtual hooker) or just do it because it's what they do and would've done......how exactly can you tell what kind of person they are.....because if in the game they are labeled as "single" when in reality he is "married" well then technically he didn't cheat because he isn't "virtually married"......where do you draw the line and call it quits on a relationship? This is hard,....I try to place myself in other's shoes and honestly I don't know what I would do,....because in the end it's a game,.......or is it not?

Cheaters...be appreciative!

Cheaters,….be appreciative!

I read an article in a Spanish magazine about a woman who was married and had 2 kids whose husband cheated on her. The story goes like this:
She noticed an odd behavior in her husband. He would lock himself in his office and listen to the same love song for hours. This happened for a while but she really got worried because he started to lose weight a lot of weight. So she decided to talk to her hubby. When she asked him what was wrong with him he told her that he’d fallen in love! The poor woman was in shock; she felt her whole life collapse right I front of her. I mean its one thing to cheat but it’s another to cheat and fall in love with that person. She didn’t know what to do. After giving it some thought she told him that she needed a break and was going to leave for a while. She left….FOR A WHOLE MONTH! During this time she left him with the kids and all the duties of caring for a household. She didn’t even call. Now the poor guy had to deal with everything and no help. Imagine, cook, clean, laundry, grocery shopping, pay bills, work, help the kids with their homework, care for the kids, drive them to school, etc. He was so occupied and busy the whole time that every time his new love called, he never had time for her. Within a few days the girl left him because he had neglected her. He was so busy that it ended his relationship. A few weeks later the wife returned without calling or giving any heads up. She just showed up. She thought she was going to find everything a mess but she was surprised to find everything clean and in order.
To make a long story short: The husband realized that what his wife was worth and just how much it takes to keep and maintain a home. He was more in love with her than ever and was willing to do whatever it took to have her forgive him and save their marriage. She, on the other hand, wanted out! She was tired of not being appreciated and realized that she deserved better. So ladies and gents think before you act because a foolish mistake can ruin it all. Be appreciative of your spouse……or you can learn the hard way!

I want half of EVERYTHING!!!

Just when you thought things couldn't get an weirder they do. What would you do if your partner filed for divorce and asked that you that he wanted half of everything, including the house? Would you "saw" your house in half? I'm serious,.......apparently it's possible. MSN listed an article (http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/27113959/?GT1=43001) in which a marriage is terminated and the husband wants the house divided in two,..he actually wanted the house sawed. The funny thing is that the wife allowed this. Yea he wanted her to go through a bad situation. Now I'm wondering who got the bathroom........

Religious BS

I rarely talk about religion because I respect everyone and their views. I don't try to convince anyone that a certain religion is better than another one or try to make you convert into my religion. That's why I don't touch the subject. But this is an exception.

I'm originally from the Dominican Republic and back home religion is very important. It's so important that religion is taught in schools (very different from the US). Almost everyone goes to church every Sunday, attend retreats, hold services in their home on certain occasions. They really take it seriously. That's all fine with me, but one thing that really gets to me is that some of these "religious" people do it to be seen as a "good christian" in the eyes of the community. All the while in closed doors they say and do things that say otherwise. I remember this one person that her daughter's school was asking her for her daughter's baptism record. She didn't know where she put it and since she is from a very small town on the outside of Santo Domingo she didn't even bother going back to ask for a copy. What she intended on doing was baptizing her daughter again with new godparents. This to any person is wrong! She said that she was only doing it for her certificate because she need it and that she wasn't going to register it. Mind you this person is always criticizing other on wrongs......and of course I stood up and told her how I felt because a person is only baptized once and doing otherwise is wrong and she shouldn't have even thought about that. It's a sin! One of her sisters had to do her the favor of going to her small town and asking the church for a copy of her certificate.

For this reason I sometimes don't believe those individuals whom claim to "serve the lord"...........

Internet love,.....

I love the Internet. I can spend hours on there. I used to love chat room but I've kind of strayed away from them. Not purposely but it just happened. It might have been for the best, because although the Internet is great it has it's negative aspects. My cousin is an Internet freak,...she could spend all day connected just surfing and on different chat room. Recently she met this guy,...he seemed great. She said he was perfect exactly what she was looking for. I'm not a real big fan of Internet dating; never done it or even been attracted to do it. But she is one of those people that was willing to give it a try. Within weeks she said she was in love. So in love that they had set a date to be married. To me this is weird. I mean I really don't know how you can marry a person you rarely know. Meeting him through the Internet somewhat bothers me but then again a person can lie to you in person and on the web. Anyways, sadly enough they were set to be married within a few weeks and for some reason the wedding is on hold. He hasn't responded her calls; he lives too far to just hop on over and see if he's okay and she doesn't know his family. This is why it's weird.

It's hard for me to place myself in her position because I didn't agree with the relationship from the beginning. Find a man who is nearby. You need to FEEL affection not only receive emoticons about them........

Anyone been through this?