Ideas for Valentine's Day

I know I know,..another V day is here and what will you do? Roses and chocolates again? Try something different. I've managed to write some of my personal favorite things I've done and will do and as always I wanted to share it with you.......

1. Write love quotes, or a poem in a frame or a card;

2. Make a CD of all your romantic songs (songs that have a meaning for both of you);

3. Make a picnic to your favorite spot;

4. Make a collage of the two of you with a verse from "your" song in the middle;

5. Make a list of all the things you love about your partner;

6. Send messages to your lovey dovey all day long (naughty and ncie);

7. Make valentine a “whole year” event,….send nice little notes to your partner every single day for a whole year. Surely you’ll get extra points….;

8. Paint a box or a jar and fill with little love notes, poems, or reasons why u love your partner, so whenever he or she is down they pop open the jar and reach in for a little boost. Or you can fill a container with your love's favorite candy (ie: The charms form Lucky Charms, red M&M's, pink Starbursts,..etc.);

9. Make a little coupon book (which contains coupons your Honey can redeem at any time; you can include anything from foot rub, car wash, facial, manicure, hang with the boys/gals, free day and naughty things—let your imagination run wild-be creative);
10. Breakfast in bed;

11. Make a bath for your loved one with bath salts and scented oils, topped with rose petals and place those small white candles for the scented oils everywhere is the bathroom;
12. Call local radio and dedicate a song for your gal/guy;

13. Organize a treasure hunt with arrows and clues to reach the final prize (YOU) in the bed/bath WAITING….;

14. Place rose petals from the door to the bed and write I LOVE YOU with chocolate kisses and decorate with rose petals, place some candles on the floor to add the perfect romantic lighting (but don't put the candles in the way of your path.......I was so in the mood I got burned,...lol)

Regardless of what you do just have fun doing it.....

Only friends? Is it possible?

Many people thing that having a male friend is a big no-no being that I'm a married woman. But I think that having male friends can actually help me keep my sanity as long as I maintain certain boundaries. There are times when my head as a woman starts to go crazy and think all kinds of things, (ie: a jealous rage) and thanks to my guy friend I'm able to rethink the situation and realize that I'm not seeing another point-of-view. There are times when us, women, see things differently than what they really are. So my guy friends help me out whenever I have certain doubts or insecurities regarding my relationship and other aspects of my life. My friends respect me and my husband. But more importantly I respect my husband and myself.

There are certain things that I don't find appropriate. For instance, drinking with my male buddy ALONE; being ALONE for a long time; going out at night ALONE. It's not that I don't trust him or me, it's simply that being alone with a person from the opposite sex and putting yourself in certain positions can "tempt" you into doing something more. You may get an "urge" and it can go further than intended.

So just keep it simple........and everything will be fine!

Not during sex,.....:(

Does this happen only to me or to anyone else. Do you have that one family member that is not bad but you kind of like and don't like at the same time? I mean this person calls at all the wrong moments, wants to come over when I really don't feel like having any visitors? And the sad thing is it's not on purpose....it just happens,...AT THE WRONG TIME! Perfect example,..today I was,...um,....you know "taking care of my business with my hubby",...and right smack in the middle the phone rings,.....the phone hasn't rang alllll day but right in the middle of our business that damn thing rings. Meanwhile I'm trying to concentrate and hurry up so that it doesn't go to my answering machine. So right when it's being answered by the machine I pick up and try to sound calm and I say "hello",....well let's just say my aunt didn't recognize me,...lol...she kept saying what's wrong I didn't recognize you and I'm like "oh how odd I have no idea why..."....and my husband yelling in the background "oh she was only getting it on,...jesus".....jajajaja no but seriously. Wrong time to call,......lol

Do I look,......old?

I would love to hear what you guys and gals have to say about this. My hubby turned 33 recently and he’s always been pretty active. I mean name a sport or activity and he’s probably done it. Surfing, snowboarding, baseball, tennis, golf,….you name it. He loves to be active. However, it’s hard for him to accept that his body 20 years ago isn’t the same as now. About a year ago he had a bad motorcycle accident when I was pregnant. He fractured his thyroid cartilage (his throat area) and let’s just say that many people have died with injuries less than what he had….so like the doc said he’s alive for a reason. When this happened I spoke to him and convinced him that for our child’s sake that he needs to act more his age; So we sold all the motorcycles we had. He recently made new friends, whom I might add are much younger than he is so they have a lot of energy and they tolerate more than my husband does. The other day after he came home from playing golf with his new friends, he wanted to go body boarding with them. The younger guys caught almost all the waves and didn’t think twice about swimming back and forth. My poor husband caught like 3 waves took a break and wend back in, caught 2 more waves and decided to call it a day. His friends kept calling him “grandpa’”. My husband is not that much older than they are but they just wanted to mess with him. On the way home he kept telling me, “I’m getting old. Do I look old? My body isn’t the same as it used to”. Being the great wife that I am I lifted my hubby’s spirit and said “Men are like a great wine,……the older they get the better they are”. Let’s just say he had a smile the rest of the way home!

Virtual Affair,.....

I keep bringing this up about this "Virtual" life issue because it just seems so interesting to me. I mean how do you weigh or judge people's actions in this game? Should you make them pay for it in "Real" life? After browsing through the news,....(as I always do) I come across a woman who is divorcing her husband because he walked in on him having "virtual sex" with another virtual player. I mean "virtual infidelity"......so yea technically the person really didn't do it, but their "persona" did. I mean it can go either ways: either they play and do things they wouldn't normally do in real life (like getting a BJ by a virtual hooker) or just do it because it's what they do and would've done......how exactly can you tell what kind of person they are.....because if in the game they are labeled as "single" when in reality he is "married" well then technically he didn't cheat because he isn't "virtually married"......where do you draw the line and call it quits on a relationship? This is hard,....I try to place myself in other's shoes and honestly I don't know what I would do,....because in the end it's a game,.......or is it not?

Virtual life?

Ok here's another.......is anyone familiar with virtual life? Because I'm not.....well that's until I read a recent article about a girl and a guy who were "married" in a virtual life game. I didn't even know this existed.....I mean you must not be content with your life or have too much time in your hands to live 2 different lives. The article is quite interesting, apparently the guy "divorced" his virtual wife online without her knowing and she was so pissed off that somehow she got access to his log in information and "killed" his virtual person/profile. Funny huh?

Penis & Spit?

I was recently reading blogs about things that children do and say and I have to share something with you all. When I found out I was pregnant last year almost my whole family joined me to the OB/GYN (I'm the first daughter, neice, and granddaughter). So when my 8 year old cousin also joined me I was curious to know whether she knew what an OB/GYN is. When I asked her she told me that she didn't know so I explained to her that he check vaginas and the female reproductive system (in simpler terms to make sure that a woman can have babies and that the baby is fine). I guess that got her thinking and when we got to the car she tells her mother something secretly and my aunt looks at me and whispers to me what she told her. My cousin asked her that if my husband had to show me his penis and spit at me to get pregnant. I was in shock!!!! What the hell,.....I mean what is she watching. My aunt is one of those people that finds it funny so she just smiled. I'm a little close to her now so everytime she opens her mouth to ask me something.....I dread those moments!

Don't weight.....

Weight has always been an issue for me, even when I looked awesome there was always "a little bit more" that I wanted to lose. I'm not a petite girl so I always had to watch out for my weight because it seems even my bones are heavy! Thus, dieting has always existed in my life. After having my first baby it's become even a little more difficult to lose these extra pounds, but believe me they must be lost! My son is 11 months today and I'm still trying to lose the weight. You know what's funny? My sister says,.."You just had a baby!" I'm like "uh yea,....A YEAR AGO!"......So the saddest thing happened today,...I got on the scale (at the time of day I normally DON'T weight myself) and guess what happened? I gained a few lbs,......Jesus I have to start laying off the Cheetos.

The funny thing is that I was doing real good a few weeks ago. I took up tennis lessons and that really kicked up my weight loss....I felt great! But with all the bad weather lately my tennis lesson have been on hold. Do you know what it is to go from active to NON-active? It sucks! You feel less energetic and even lazy! I hate that feeling. The problem now is I have to get my will-power up and going. How else am I going to NOT eat the Cheetos in the pantry, cake in the fridge my hubby bought? To top it off say no to Carbs at night!

So I have to mentally prepare myself,...because if it's one thing I'm 100% sure of is this: If you're not mentally ready,...you're not ready! So I'm not waiting any longer and I'm going to get back on track! I want to feel sexy in my nightie without turning away from the mirror,........

Bootcamp Mom,...NOT!

I’ve always been the one to be tough on the nieces and nephews and say “when I have my kids they’ll know better; they better not act like that…”……now that I’m a momma,….I see just how difficult it is to discipline these little angles. I mean I’m already at the phase where my son is going to think his name is No……I say it allllll day looong! Poor kid. But then he looks at me with this little pout and his little eyes and gives me a smile like saying “oh c’mon sucker fall for it like everyone else”,……….and then I can hear saying “works every time” and I snap out of it! Phew! Almost fell for it again! This parenting thing is harder than I thought. Mostly because I didn’t have the same love I have for the other kids like I have for my little one…….but you know what? This is just now,….wait until he starts doing stuff on purpose and knows he’s doing it on purpose. No more Mr. Nice Guy.

Old at 26

I feel so old and outdated. I realized this a few months ago when I had two teenage cousins visiting. They’re still in high school and know all the new street words, their meaning and have that texting lingo down packed. I guess when I graduated high school I kept using all my slang without considering that they change. How funny…..during their visit I was saying “oh that’s phat!” and they smiled looked at me and the outspoken one said “that’s old,….you don’t use that anymore”…OMG where have I been…how come I wasn’t informed? Where was the memo because I never received it. I swear there should be an organization in charge of making sure that people like me that are still cool and young enough to fit in and not considered “old” can keep up with the street slang. There should be a dictionary,…lol…..crazy how words that are “in” change without us even knowing….back to the regular usage of words,…or I’ll just create my own……..

Mayo Jar & 2 Beers,...Thanks Nana Net

While browsing through different blogs I ran into something I really liked and wanted to share. So here you go,..thanks Nana Net for allowing me to share it further along! You can check out more of her stuff at: http://wwwawbfam.blogspot.com/

The Mayonnaise Jar and 2 Beers

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 Beers.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.
The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.
The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous 'yes.'
The professor then produced two Beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.
'Now,' said the professor as the laughter subsided, 'I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things---your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions---and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.
The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car.
The sand is everything else---the small stuff. 'If you put the sand into the jar first,' he continued, 'there IS no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.
'Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Spend time with your children. Spend time with your parents. Visit with grandparents. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first---the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.'
One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the Beer represented. The professor smiled and said, 'I'm glad you asked.'
The Beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of Beers with a friend.'

Cheaters...be appreciative!

Cheaters,….be appreciative!

I read an article in a Spanish magazine about a woman who was married and had 2 kids whose husband cheated on her. The story goes like this:
She noticed an odd behavior in her husband. He would lock himself in his office and listen to the same love song for hours. This happened for a while but she really got worried because he started to lose weight a lot of weight. So she decided to talk to her hubby. When she asked him what was wrong with him he told her that he’d fallen in love! The poor woman was in shock; she felt her whole life collapse right I front of her. I mean its one thing to cheat but it’s another to cheat and fall in love with that person. She didn’t know what to do. After giving it some thought she told him that she needed a break and was going to leave for a while. She left….FOR A WHOLE MONTH! During this time she left him with the kids and all the duties of caring for a household. She didn’t even call. Now the poor guy had to deal with everything and no help. Imagine, cook, clean, laundry, grocery shopping, pay bills, work, help the kids with their homework, care for the kids, drive them to school, etc. He was so occupied and busy the whole time that every time his new love called, he never had time for her. Within a few days the girl left him because he had neglected her. He was so busy that it ended his relationship. A few weeks later the wife returned without calling or giving any heads up. She just showed up. She thought she was going to find everything a mess but she was surprised to find everything clean and in order.
To make a long story short: The husband realized that what his wife was worth and just how much it takes to keep and maintain a home. He was more in love with her than ever and was willing to do whatever it took to have her forgive him and save their marriage. She, on the other hand, wanted out! She was tired of not being appreciated and realized that she deserved better. So ladies and gents think before you act because a foolish mistake can ruin it all. Be appreciative of your spouse……or you can learn the hard way!

I want half of EVERYTHING!!!

Just when you thought things couldn't get an weirder they do. What would you do if your partner filed for divorce and asked that you that he wanted half of everything, including the house? Would you "saw" your house in half? I'm serious,.......apparently it's possible. MSN listed an article (http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/27113959/?GT1=43001) in which a marriage is terminated and the husband wants the house divided in two,..he actually wanted the house sawed. The funny thing is that the wife allowed this. Yea he wanted her to go through a bad situation. Now I'm wondering who got the bathroom........

Internet love,.....

I love the Internet. I can spend hours on there. I used to love chat room but I've kind of strayed away from them. Not purposely but it just happened. It might have been for the best, because although the Internet is great it has it's negative aspects. My cousin is an Internet freak,...she could spend all day connected just surfing and on different chat room. Recently she met this guy,...he seemed great. She said he was perfect exactly what she was looking for. I'm not a real big fan of Internet dating; never done it or even been attracted to do it. But she is one of those people that was willing to give it a try. Within weeks she said she was in love. So in love that they had set a date to be married. To me this is weird. I mean I really don't know how you can marry a person you rarely know. Meeting him through the Internet somewhat bothers me but then again a person can lie to you in person and on the web. Anyways, sadly enough they were set to be married within a few weeks and for some reason the wedding is on hold. He hasn't responded her calls; he lives too far to just hop on over and see if he's okay and she doesn't know his family. This is why it's weird.

It's hard for me to place myself in her position because I didn't agree with the relationship from the beginning. Find a man who is nearby. You need to FEEL affection not only receive emoticons about them........

Anyone been through this?

Don't be dogged......

As sad as it sounds not only do we have to keep an eye for cheating spouses, but also for cheating pets! Come again? You heard it,......pets will apparently leave their owner in search for a better life. Just when you thought it was going to get easier we find out about this. The sad part is we don't speak "dog"; so how will we ever get to explain ourselves or hear "their" side of the story? Your spouse cheats you can always talk and try to fix whatever caused the spouse to stray. Try getting your message across to a dog,....."woof, woof, wwwwooooooff,.....grrrrrr".....you think I made my point?